What does it mean to be an Ally?
In this context, it means to side with or support.
To my fellow folks, you’re not an Ally if you’re not making an effort to either side with or support them. If you can’t understand that you’re missing the point by advocating, by using your voice to drown out your own guilt or inappropriate actions, or, even worse, at the cost of their own. Then you need to stop, re evaluate yourself, and ask why you are considered an Ally.
If they aren’t the ones calling you one, if you have to remind yourself to act like an ally, you’re not there yet. It’s important to be an Ally. Not just play at it.